Dreams + Reality, Love + Hate: That Fine Line Between

Have you ever feel trapped between ambivalence and that fine line between? Ambivalence being that you have two emotions fighting over your feelings. Common scenario: You feel hurt because your chatty best friend spilled your secret to someone else (again!), but you kind of expected it anyway. Or you hate your significant other as much as you love him/her.

Now, what about that thin fine line? Between what? Well, love and hate, of course! So you've hit a rough spot in a relationship, and you're teetering on the edge of losing the love. Perhaps, you broke up ages ago but you can't seem to move on and it festers like an infected wound that is stopping you from being happy. Or maybe you've been consoling a best friend from a very bad break up and somehow his/her pain becomes yours and the only thing you want to do is hurt those responsible for it.

I'll give you anther scenario: You're in an undying love with your significant other. But, there's always something that he/she does that makes you hate him/her. There's another but to this. You already knew that your dearest is going to do something that'll tick you off anyway. Imagine Netflix's wildly-talked about psychotic thriller series, "You". Now, this to me feels like a scenario stuck between ambivalence and that fine line between love and hate.

So how do you hold yourself with integrity so the blast of hatred doesn't level with you and you don't fall for the temptation of retaliation? It takes a deep-rooted confidence in morality. My advice: Don't cross over and give light to the dark side. Seriously. Don't do it. Why? Simple reason: It's not worth it. Another simple reason: The desire to hurt others will only make you hurt more.

Frankly, there is no such thing as loving someone too much. Even if there is such a thing, it's smothering enough to drive someone to feel "claustrophobic of love". And suffocated people tend to do whatever it takes to get out of it, in this case, make you hate them to get away from you.

I quote this from a web article, "Love and hate seem to be involved in the neural processing of what is sometimes referred to as the arousal effect of emotion and arousal can be negative. It seems that an emotion with a high arousal effect can quickly turn from love to hate." Positive to negative. Intense love can seem like forever that it's almost surrealistic when we realize how quickly it can turn into hate.